The Ex

So after a five month hiatus from the world of internet dating, I decided to give it another go.  I am in the process of changing jobs and will (hopefully) have more time to get out of the office and see people.  In my momentary state of optimistic fervour, I re-activated my internet profile.  And how did the gods repay me for my foolish positive outlook, but to match me with my ex-boyfriend!

After sifting through a few profiles, happily judging other people, I froze in a moment of shock to see a picture of "BZoso" playing his guitar.  I'm not sure what caused this fleeting panic, as it has been quite some time since we dated.   I guess I just didn't expect to see his face as I looked for my next dating candidate.  I'm honestly kind of irritated.  I mean, I have been doing so good at ignoring his facebook requests, it's like he just snuck up on me in a new way to take me by surprise.  But there he was, looking more like a hippy than I remember, but still kind of cute in his I'm-trying-really-hard-not-to-look-like-I'm-puttying-any-effort-into-my-appearance sort of way.

Things did not end well with me and BZoso.  We were doing the long distance thing while I was in law school across the country and, like many guitar players, he did not turn out to be the most faithful of companions.  BZoso and I dated for mere months, but finding out about his lies affected me greatly.  It has been a year and a half since we last talked and I was not expecting to encounter him again.  

From reading his profile, he does seem to be making a minimal effort to appear as though he has evolved, stating, "I am getting better at communicating as I get older and would really prefer to find someone who can also communicate effectively", and listing some new past times such as yoga, reading, wine tasting and going to museums.  None of these things are in line with the BZoso I remember, but hey, I guess everyone tries to put their best face forward on these things.  What I am genuinely impressed by is the fact his grammar and spelling was fairly good throughout his profile.  I totally would have pegged him for one of those lazy dudes who can't be bothered to spell check.

So, this has been a less than inspiring first day returning to the online dating world, but it can only improve from here...right?

DoBaBlue: "I am like poop.  The older I get, the easier I am to pick up."