Missing the Butterflies

So tonight I am going on my second date with the Fly Fisherman (see my last post for me details), and I think it should be a good time, but I can't help but feel a little disappointed at the lack of anticipation.

I mean, online dating effectively takes the mystery and the fun of the chase out of new relationships.  On the one hand, it is convenient to be able to weed out all the undesirables right from the start by looking at people's profiles and e-mailing back and forth.  But I am finding that it also takes the suspense out of the equation as well. 

Everything just seems so cut and dry and to the point.  Guy looks at Girl's profile.  Guy e-mails Girl.  Girl responds.  Guy and Girl meet each other and either they never see each other again or they continue in this pattern.  There is no doubt at all right from the start that the intention behind their correspondence and meetings is romantic in nature.  For instance, I already know that the Fly Fisherman is interested in me because he's the one who (a) asked me out the first time, and (b) asked me out for a second date.  So it's good that the pressure is off me and that I, in a way, have the upper hand and control, but I miss the butterflies! 

Maybe it is because most of the guys I have dated started as friends first.  There is that first stage where your girlfriends start noticing that you are acting differently around him and you adamantly deny that you have any feelings for him.  But after a few weeks you come to grips with the fact that yes, you have a high-school-type crush and look for any opportunity to spend time with him.  And then, that amazing moment comes, when you are somewhat sure he feels the same way about you but not 100% certain, so you orchestrate a situation in which the two of you are alone, and then your heart beats faster and oh my god his hand brushes against yours!  Was it intentional?  Does he like you?  Will he do it again?  And you hope beyond all hope that he does, and sure enough, your instincts were right!  As he leans in for the kiss your stomach is aflutter with a million butterflies as you come to the realization that beyond a shadow of a doubt, he likes you too! 

I miss that feeling and will be very disappointed if online dating deprives me of that amazing initial phase of a relationship.

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